Defense and Denial Mechanisms When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us – Alexander Graham Bell Defense and denial mechanisms are used by all human beings and may be necessary for …∞
My best friend was going through some tough situations in her life. I was in the midst of a hard stretch too. We didn’t particularly like the things we had to do in our lives. We talked about our feelings and decided that what we were going through was necessary and important, even though we …∞
How Co-dependency is Often Experienced My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you. My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you. Your struggles affect MY serenity. MY mental attention focuses on solving YOUR problems or relieving YOUR pain. My mental attention is focused on PLEASING …∞
Alcoholics need help and these ‘affirmative love’ suggestions may help you. It is important to put the responsibility for dealing with the alcohol problem squarely on the person in question while continuing to love them. Doing the “right” thing can depend on how severe the alcohol problem is and on how much real understanding the …∞
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The Twelve Steps for Christians The Twelve Steps for Christians This revised edition is a powerful resource for merging the practical wisdom of the Twelve Steps with the spiritual truths of the Bible. My husband and I previously read this book and were very impressed. We are both in recovery and were avid believers …∞
Twelve Signs of a Spiritual Awakening The 12-Step program focuses on more than just stopping using drugs, acting out or drinking. The program also builds basic human spiritual values and practices. These in turn give a natural emotional high to any life situation. In recovery after a spiritual awakening you may experience; 1. An increased …∞
Building Healthy Relationship With One’s Self In Al-Anon As a family recovery coach, my radar goes up when I hear clients talking about how much someone else’s drinking is bothering them. What the drinker’s actual diagnosis is or isn’t, is not important to me. If their drinking is bothering my client, I gently begin asking …∞
A new collection of Speaker Tapes has been found in America. The collection of MP3 tracks includes; Alcoholics Anonymous AA Founders AA Pioneers Big Book Authors Al-anon Narcotics Anonymous This library of tapes is estimated at 50,000 on wire recordings, reel-to-reel tapes, cassettes and dates back to the 1940′s. Collected by Bill and Arbutus O’Neal …∞
“The entire purpose of my life had been to see my father sober but even after I had succeeded, I couldn’t be happy. My life was void of meaning. Other people couldn’t understand it. Honestly, neither could I. I used to think that some sick part of me wanted my father to keep drinking so …∞
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Enabling is the ideas, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors that unintentionally continue to foster drinking, alcohol related problems or make matters worse by not allowing the alcoholic to deal with the consequences of their alcoholism. Enabling is part of the set of behaviors practiced by co-dependents of alcoholism. Researchers report that the majority of partners took …∞